Six years of blogging

Happy six year anniversary to my blog!  I can’t believe it’s been that long, and I’ve certainly come a long way.  I seemed to have caught the tail end of the craze though, because it’s a lot harder to find dating blogs on here nowadays.  It’s a shame that many of the ones I started with are no longer around.  One by one my favorite bloggers fell by the wayside as they found significant others, or at least better things to do with their time.

I’ve considered shuttering this blog too.   The month after I lost my virginity, my views went down by half and have continued their decline.  At my peak I received 3,000 to 4,000 views a month and an inquiry from a Washington Post reporter.  A slow day would garner 100 views, a new post would bring 200+.  Now a new post won’t even crack 100, even though I have more followers than ever.  I guess my journey is not as interesting ever since the climax.  However, I do enjoy writing and interacting with my fellow WordPressers, so I’m sticking around.

Bumble is sticking around too.  I’m on the verge of deleting it for the 20th time, though.  I don’t know why I keep trying, but until I have more luck meeting people the old-fashioned way it’s better than nothing.  I received a shit ton of matches from my recent trips into the city, but I’ve been eliminating them left and right:  Minimal and mediocre conversation?  Shitty availability?  Using the app to promote their Instagram or music and bartending gigs?  Undercover single mothers?  Goodbye.

Then I had another one of those 1 in 100 conversations.  Finally someone else that matched me in goofiness and witty banter, whom I really seemed to click with.  And then it all went to shit.  Everything was fine until she added me on Instagram and I scrolled through her old posts.   All I did was swipe with my finger for a minute or two to get to the end and remarked, “I see you were into fitness coaching back in the day?”

“Whoa, you went through my old posts??” she said.  Uh, yeah.  So what?  Who doesn’t do that when they add someone?  It really weirded her out though.  I didn’t even like or comment on any posts, I simply asked a question.  What’s more, she had sent me a pic of her messy kitchen (due to party prep), and I had zoomed in on the background and pointed out that we had the same bottle of dish liquid with the duck on it.  That didn’t sit right with her either – that I was looking in the background of her photos.

Add to that me playing the piano and not eating seafood, and it was too many red flags for her.  And just like that I was back to square one.  Just as well – if that’s her bar for weirdness then we were in for a rough ride.  But it amazes me sometimes – I hear so many women airing laundry lists of serious grievances about their men, yet for some reason they hang in there.  Meanwhile, I’m put through the meat grinder for the silliest, nitpickiest little shit.  I’d list more examples but there are too many.

In some ways I feel like I’m still in the same spot as when I started this blog.  Yes, I’ve finally swiped the V-card.  However I’m still yearning to put at least one long-term adult relationship under my belt.   And I’m going be 35 this year.  Once again I wonder why it hasn’t happened yet and why it’s so frustratingly hard for me.  And I feel like I have a lot to offer the right person.

I have a job, a car, my own place.  I can cook and would love to do so for someone.  I’m cultivating hobbies and a social life.  I communicate and respond in a timely fashion.  I’m honest and open about my feelings.  I do my best to get to know the other person.  I’d be a supportive partner.  I’m not argumentative but I’m no pushover either.  When it comes to the bedroom not only do I have good stamina but I’m eager to please, ready to learn, and open to trying new things.  I know how to have a good time and plan fun activities.  I like to think I’m funny.  I even think I’m fairly good looking.

Of course there’s always room for self-improvement and I’m always looking for ways to do so.  But I feel like there’s more working in my favor than against.  I just don’t seem to have that elusive “it” factor yet.  I don’t know.  In the meantime I’m going to do my best to meet people and keep putting my best foot forward.  We’ll see what happens.

18 thoughts on “Six years of blogging

  1. Happy six year anniversary and *virtual cheers* to us both failing at finding long-term relationships! I do have faith it will happen for both of us though. Have you tried out Hinge? It’s given me the most luck as of late. I’m hoping to get back to blogging again soon – so don’t worry, I haven’t disappeared for good. 😉

  2. I wonder what would happen if you swiped ‘right’ for someone who seems a little outside of your usual type? It doesn’t hurt to change things up a bit. What’s the worst that could happen – it doesn’t work out.

  3. Well done and congrats on six years. It seems now that social media is prevalent blogging has somewhat fallen by the wayside. However, if a blogger comes out with fresh content there should be no issue finding readers. You should share some of your classics sometimes also.

  4. I agree with Jack and republishing your classics is a great idea. I might even consider it! I am still around although 6 months into a relationship I still have plenty of dating topics to write about but competing interests for time. I won’t give up on my blog either – although 6 years beats me by 4 1/2 years! Well done for all that creative output and consistently writing entertaining, intelligent and thoughtful stories. You know I’m a fan and can’t understand your rotten luck. Maybe it will all become clear someday when you meet a special someone? I certainly hope so. In the meantime, I’ll be here waiting for that next post 😉

  5. Happy Anniversary!

    I feel the same way you do, about wanting a proper adult relationship and age kind of screaming “you’re getting old”. But I can see why *I* have problems with that, as dating when disabled is even harder, you seem to have your life in order and thus should have it easier.

    It seems you have an easier time meeting people at least, but when it comes to holding on to them, maybe our problems aren’t so different after all.

  6. You may not be an unfortunate virgin anymore, but your ability find unavailable, toxic, or otherwise insane women online is still an interesting read. I wonder what happened to these women that’s left them so damaged? Your lack of relationship success in your 20s was pretictable and pretty common, but I figured for sure you would have “broken through” by now.

    • To be fair I met plenty that I just plain didn’t click with. And I have fornicated with two ladies, so that’s a big breakthrough from when I started this blog. But when I see some of the people that are having more luck than I am… I can only scratch my head.

  7. Happy Anniversary! Admiring the dedication to this blog! Keep going 🙂 Love reading up on your stories! Best of luck on finding the lucky one though!

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