I went on Facebook earlier today because I wanted to send New Girl a message. However, when I clicked on her profile I noticed something really odd:
She had unfriended me. Dafuq…? I gaped at my computer screen, racking my brain for any possible reason why. Nothing came to mind. She was all smiles and hugs when we parted ways, and expressed a clear interest in getting together again. So I sent her the message as originally planned, without mentioning my peculiar discovery:
“Hey! I had fun on Sunday and I can’t wait to get together again. In the meantime I’ve come up with a couple of ideas I wanted to float past you… like doing [this] at the beginning of the dance instead, and when we get to [this part of the music] we can do [such and such]. What do you think? You wanna give those a try?”
And I just left it at that. Her reply came through a few minutes later:
“No. I’ll do it by myself.”
All right, she definitely had a bug up her ass about something. What, though?
“Um… okay? Is something wrong?”
Apparently. Because her next move was to block me on Facebook entirely. My subsequent phone call went unanswered and she didn’t return my voicemail. So it looks like whatever the problem was will forever remain a mystery. This only reinforces this niggling feeling that I’m unwittingly saying or doing something to turn girls off and to provoke these kinds of reactions. Except I don’t know what I possibly could have done this time.
Ann St. Vincent recently suggested I ask some of the girls I went on dates with “why didn’t things work out?” Their answers might be difficult to hear, but I might learn something valuable. Well…I was saving this for one of my next posts, but I’ve been doing just that. Certainly can’t hurt at this point. But so far I haven’t learned anything apart from “you just weren’t my type” or “I just didn’t feel any connection” or “we just have different personalities” and similar answers. Unfortunately, the girls whom I thought would actually have some important feedback were precisely the ones that didn’t respond to my inquiry.
So that’s that, I guess.