I couldn’t believe my luck. She looked even better than her pictures and was by far the hottest girl I’d ever gone on a date with. I was even more amazed that she actually seemed into me. And she was so nice.
Things were going swimmingly until about halfway into the date. Then my mouth got in the way. I mentioned that I was one of six kids, and her eyes nearly popped out of her head.
“Six kids?? Wow. Are there any grandkids?”
“Just two,” I said. “And it looks like that’s going to be about it. Nobody else seems to want kids.”
Her eyebrows went up. “But you do, right?”
Uh oh. Shit. Well, might as well get it out of the way, and I already knew how it was going to end.
“Actually I don’t,” I stated. Unfortunately, she did. Like three or four. Ugh. I guess it’s better to be let down now as opposed to later. And there was a subtle change in the atmosphere after that admission. By the end of the date I knew she’d lost interest in me. Especially since she was the one to call it a night. I’ve yet to have a girl end a date and then follow-up with, “I’d like to see you again.”
I walked her to her car, and on the way I came right out and said it: “I guess you wouldn’t be interested in seeing me again, then?” Nope. She said she didn’t think there was any connection. Personally, I don’t believe that’s necessarily something you can tell right away. Nonetheless, I admitted that we seem to be looking for different things. She wants kids and I don’t, and if that’s something that’s really important to her then I wouldn’t want to waste her time. She agreed and we parted ways very amicably. She thanked me for a nice time and told me I was a great guy and wished me luck. I wished her the same and we hugged each other good night before parting ways.
Afterwards I started thinking… During our conversation about kids she mentioned that she had a friend who doesn’t want kids either, which consequently made it hard for her to meet guys.
That does not compute. A girl who doesn’t want kids? Most guys would be all over that. There should be a waiting list to date her. I seriously can’t remember the last time I heard a guy express a genuine desire for children. Maybe I’m just being overly cynical, but I feel like many guys who say they want kids… say so because they know girls want guys who want kids. Like Dave Chappelle said, “If a man could fuck a woman inside a cardboard box, he wouldn’t buy a house.”
In any case, this friend of hers sounded right up my alley… but did I dare ask? Two days later I took the plunge. I messaged Hot Girl and said, “Hey, I was just thinking – your friend who has a hard time meeting guys because she doesn’t want kids? Maybe you could introduce us if she’s interested?” I had nothing to lose by asking, so why the hell not? I wasn’t sure whether she’d respond positively (or even at all), but she surprised me by saying that she would talk to her friend and see. Wow. Now I’m glad I asked. Nothing may come of it, but see what happens when you take chances?
Last Thursday I’d set a date with Wine Girl (she works at a winery). I picked a frozen yogurt and smoothie place in her town and we were good to go. Then the text came with three hours to go:
“hey! I’m soo sorry but can we reschedule? It’s my moms bday and my sister planned a dinner for all of us she just told me about…”
Smells like bullshit to me. Why would you set a date on your mother’s birthday? I asked her precisely that question. Well, she thought her dad would be taking her mother out. Right, and you didn’t figure on spending anytime with her yourself? But whatever. I decided to call her bluff and I asked when she wanted to reschedule for. As expected, no response. Looks like I dodged another bullet.
As I said in my last post, I’d been running out of steam and wanted to take a break from OKC to regroup. Instead I decided to change my approach. More straightforward, more to-the-point, and more snark. So far it seems to be working a little better. Between now and Sunday I have three more dates (unless someone else cancels last-minute). Saturday’s girl is the one I’m most interested in, but we’ll see how the others go. Wish me luck!
First dates: 11
Second dates: 1
Stood up: 1
Sexual experiences: 0.5