I saw Horse Girl for a third time. She proposed going kayaking in one of her first messages, so I finally took her up on the idea. We set a date for Monday, and she invited me over to her place. She lives by herself in a cottage on a large private estate, with access to a private beach and cove. Now, the fact that she lived by herself and she gave me her address caused my brain to go into overdrive and I knew I was over-thinking this. Last time she’d said she wanted to develop a friendship first. No rushing into things. So she said.
Nonetheless I came prepared for the possibilities. And I came with my newly-acquired kayak. Actually, I was more excited about going kayaking than anything else. While I’ve always been in the water, I’ve never been ON the water. Never set foot in a boat of any kind – unless you count a ferry here and there. Whoopty-do. So I was completely stoked, and she seemed amused by my excitement.
It took me a while to get the hang of it, and I had a fucking blast. I was like a little kid having his first ice cream cone. Definitely the most fun I’ve had in a long time, and I told her so. I was hoping we could make a day out of it, but she told me she was hanging out with someone else later on. I knew what that meant – another guy from OKC. And there went my plans and hopes for the rest of the day. So I proposed another outing for the following week, but she sounded very non-committal. Needless to say, I left there feeling a bit disappointed. Still, I’ve seen her more times than anyone else so far. I feel very comfortable with her, but I don’t feel any real spark yet. So we’ll see.
When I got home I logged into OKC and found a new message from this girl I’ve been talking to. History Girl. She’s studying ancient history and recently traveled all over Europe. So I’d asked her about her travels and she was like, “I did so much, I hardly even know where to begin!”
I sensed an opportunity, so I wrote back: “I would love to hear all about your travels. Let’s grab some drinks and you can tell me all about them. I haven’t traveled much myself, so it’s always a treat for me to listen to stories of where others have been.”
History Girl: “Yeah we can definitely grab a drink, that sounds like fun. Let me know when you’re free.”
Me: “Well, come to think of it I’m actually free later tonight, although that’s probably a bit short notice?”
HG: “Not at all! Around when were you thinking?”
So we met at 8 at the Starbucks in her town. Right off the bat I could tell she wasn’t interested in me. She just gave off this weird vibe. I don’t think she found me physically attractive, so she proceeded to go through our date with the air of someone wanting to get things over with quickly. The original plan was to sit by the water and chat, but instead we were practically power-walking around town. I felt like asking whether she was in a rush to be someplace else.
Our messages back and forth were light and easy, but our conversation in person was anything but. She hardly asked anything about myself, and whenever I asked her a question about anything I’d get a one-sentence reply.
Me: “So – tell me about some of your travels?”
HG: “Well… I just came back from Spain.”
Me: “Yeah? What did you do there?”
HG: “I was working there for two months.”
Me: “Cool. What kind of work?”
HG: “I was an archivist.”
And so on. It was like pulling teeth. A far cry from the boatloads of travel stories she said she had. Clearly she wasn’t interested in sharing any, so I ended up doing most of the talking. Which probably just irritated her more, because she kept responding with “uh-huh” and “okay” and “yeah.” Finally I decided I’d had enough. When she pulled out her phone to text for the third time, I called it a night.
“Yeah, I’m actually meeting my roommate and her friend for dinner, so I have to go anyway.”
“Okay, well have fun,” I told her. We parted ways and that was that. A supreme waste of time, but at least it was only a half-hour. But I’m glad I took the chance, because you never know.
First dates: 13
Second dates: 1
Third dates: 1
Stood up: 2
Sexual experiences: 0.5