I seem to have run into a dry patch. I’ve been unable to line up any more dates, and the last week only brought disappointment. Here’s the rundown:
First date… second date… and she said she’d like to see me again and “I’ll even pay next time if you’d like…” First she told me her mother was visiting the following week so she wouldn’t be around, but we still texted back and forth. Then I wished her a nice weekend and she only responded with “aw thanks!” Um, okay? Apparently she didn’t feel the need to wish me a nice weekend in return, which rankled a bit. Maybe I was just reading too much into it. But then she never even responded when I asked if she wanted to come to the free concert at the nature preserve this past Sunday. So I guess she doesn’t want to see me again after all.
An entire month (and then some) went by after she canceled with the promise of rescheduling. I finally ran out of patience and sent her a message asking whether she intended to get back to me or whether she was just going to keep me hanging. I pointed out that she gave the impression of being really interested/excited to meet me, so her lack of response was really confusing – was it something I said? Meanwhile, I’d already concluded that she was no longer interested. But I just wanted to hear her say it, and maybe even find out why she got cold feet at the last minute. As I expected, though – still no response.
I’m sure you can guess what the attraction was here. But I may as well call her Busy Girl, because she seemed to have absolutely no free time outside of grad school and work and her extra-curricular activities (which include traveling). We literally had to schedule our first phone call. Good grief. On top of that, I asked her out on a date but she said she’s not going to have any free time for the next two weeks. So now I have another item to add to my list of things I’m looking for: time for a relationship. Anyhoo, in two weeks we’ll see if she has time to finally get together. Assuming, of course, that she’s not just another one giving me another BS story in lieu of saying “I’m not actually interested.”
Because she plays rugby. But her profile had some nonsensical stuff in it, and since I enjoy that sort of thing I was able to have a bizarre and nutty conversation with her. We discussed subjects like Were Dinosaurs Killed by STDs? and Could Whales Attack Us At The Beach? She mentioned she loved cheesecake, and I saw that as my opening. I invited her out to a cheesecake place, and we agreed on Monday at 7. Then she deleted her profile before we could finalize things or exchange numbers. Weird. I figured that put the kibosh on our plans, but I went to the cheesecake place just in case. Sure enough, she didn’t show. At least the cheesecake place was only right around the corner from my house, so I didn’t really waste any time.
So that’s all I have to report. I keep reminding myself that I’m making progress and that I’ve finally started going on dates, but nonetheless I’ve been feeling pretty discouraged lately. So I’m thinking of taking another break from OKC to restrategize and regroup. Something here is begging for a change, and I gotta figure out what it is…
First dates: 10
Second dates: 1
Stood up: 1
Sexual experiences: 0.5